I swear you looked at the tittle and thought “what the BEEEP!?”

What I mean is, it is true “Absence doth sharpen love, presence strengthens it; the one brings fuel, the other blows it till it burns clear.” as our William Shakespeare says.

It took me long and I mean LONG for me to feel the absence of family.

I truly love them despite all the ups and downs. They are who I am. And the blood that flows in my vein will always be theirs.

I havent kept intouch with relatives but after God had a whisper in my ear, I let it go… I agreed to start over.
The past week all I heard on my radio station (Christian Radio Station) was about LOVE.

1Corinthians13 (New International Version)
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.
2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.
3 If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part,
10 but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears.
11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.
12 Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.



He Sang It Passionately.

Can You Stand the Rain

*I met someone who gave this song a new meaning. He sang it passionately*
On a perfect day
I know that I can count on you
When that’s not possible
Tell me, can you weather the storm
Cause I need somebody who will stand by me
Through the good times and bad times
She will always, always be right there[Chorus: ]
Sunny days, everybody loves them
Tell me
Can you stand the rain
Storms will come
This we know for sure
Can you stand the rain

Your love unconditional
I’m not asking this of you
Girl, to make it last
I’ll do whatever needs to be done
Cause I need somebody who will stand by me
When it’s tough she won’t run
She will always, be right there for me

Sunny days, everybody loves them
Tell me
Can you stand the rain? (Can you stand it?)
Storms will come
(I know I know all the days won’t be perfect, but darling can you stand it?)
This we know for sure
Can you stand the rain (Can you stand the rain?)

Can you stand the rain? [x4]
No pressure, no pressure from me baby
Cause I want you
And I need you
And I love you
Will you be there for me?

Come on baby, let’s go get wet.

Can you stand the rain? (Can you stand the rain?)
This we know for sure

Can you stand the rain? (Will you be there girl?)
This we know for sure

Can you stand the rain? (Storms will come)
This we know for sure…


Ever met someone for a very short period of time but he/she changes your life in one way or the other forever?

Early months of this year, I came across someone I believe was the exact thing I needed and wanted. I met someone who in a brief period touched my heart and life differently from anyone I ever came across.

Nothing at that moment was going well for me. Nothing. Literally. There he was, a man I ever thought I deserve. Can I share with you how random we met? (embarrassing).

I was at a bus stop waiting for a cab after work. But I was numb from what happened few nights before (silly fight with my then partner).

Anyway, after 15-20minutes just standing. Someone drove past. He made a U-turn. I believed people that “looked” the way he did would be cheesy and arrogant but he surprised me (1).

Car stopped. He was on the phone. He opened the window and told the person on the line he will call back, then said said to me, “Hello mam, you catched my eye. I had to turn. Am going somewhere for few minutes-it won’t take long…ke kopa ho tsamaya le wena (can I go with you?). Oh by the way kenna “Sam X” (name changed)…”

The truth is, he thought I’d know who he is by telling the name (well known). I stood there, few seconds. Phone rang. It was my recent ex partner. Didn’t answer. Was still angry from few days back’s fight. I got in.

We drove to the mall. Took all phone calls on loudspeaker. It was quite uncomfortable. He was decent. Spoke Setswana. He told me about himself. But not what he does for a living. I didn’t mind. I wasn’t thinking of any future relation with him. So I didn’t really care.

We got to the mall. Everyone greeted him. Yes again I was uncomfortable. Why was everyone greeting him? We got to a place he wanted to go. Spent almost 30minutes him sorting out his papers. Then I told him I got to rush. Must rest then go to school in 3hrs time. When we left the mall, more people kept greeting him with that enthusiasm. Oh well…I let it go. But I had to ask who is he. He laughed and said “a friendly man”. That Is how we met.

Days went by and we would talk over the phone. Nothing uncomfortable. Nothing about love. Just our work, families etc. Then I realized I love his sense of nature. Down to earth. Always calm (since the day we met). He enjoys music as much as I do. Listens to the same genre as me. Think alike. Enjoy same things. Our birthdays were 5 days apart.

*sigh!* the day we met, he kept unconsciously singing a song I liked. I couldn’t make it out until I asked him what song he is singing. He said, “I’ll play it for you now”. We got to the car. He played New Edition- Can you stand the rain.

In the short lived moments I had with him, I learned to appreciate a person who has a lot in common with me. Appreciate the good that happens in my life. Accept that someone appreciates me. Not to make hasty sudden decision without knowing the other part of the story. Now am looking forward sharing the experience with someone I will spend my life with.




Can we talk for a moment? Like have a conversation.

You know a conversation is an exchange between two or more people right?

 Now it is between you and me. We will make this conversation fair.

 Tell me what happened to your conscious.

Tell me what happened to your morals and standards.

I mean, how do you first come up with that thought/s?

How do you go by implementing it and thereafter life with the feelings (if you have them?)

Now tell me.

What do you see in a 2months old baby to think of raping it?

How do you feel when you are busy destroying that life?

What is your reason to do such?

What exactly do we call raping a baby?

This is a fair conversation.

We are talking. You and I.


In that case,

How do you want to live after raping a baby?

Where do you want to live afterwards?

And how do you expect us the community to treat you for raping a child?

Just tell her, him, and me what we do with a person like you.


How many STOP RAPE messages do we need to hear and send before rape is stopped?

Dear you, just tell us what kind of generation are you building for this community if you can rape a newborn baby.

Dear you if you anyhow dearest. What kind of a child do you want her and him to grow up to be after you raped her.


Can you take the stage now and tell us.

We are waiting your conscious and morals to tell us.

Kwanele! We are Enough! Go lekane!


Living a Purposeful Life

After a year of neediness and loneliness, I realized I have not thanked the God who made me who I am today enough.

I can now stand firm and say, FAITH WILL TAKE YOU ANYWHERE YOU WANT because I am where I am because of it. I have been through a lot as a young lady. I learnt to equip myself through the storms and sunny weathers.

It is amazing that the moment you tell someone you are where you are because of FAITH and GOD they lose interest on the story. But they wish to be where you are. My willingness through it all got me where I am. I may not be where I want to be but, I am where God is holding my hands and leading me.

 I may not see the way He sees my path of life but I am learning every moment to let Him lead the way.

Its written on Genesis 12:2 that the Lord will bless you and you will be a blessing to others. So this is a great lesson of living a purposeful life. Live your life as a blessing to someone. Live to bless. Bless even the blessed. Blessings will be upon you whenever you go. A pure heart will bless without a doubt. It will bless without expectation to be blessed too. Bless even if you have NOTHING.


It took me a long time to realise what it means to live a purposeful life. I thought living a purposeful life is passing all your grades with good marks. It is making it to college and having a great career. Having a loving family and a good life. It is none of those above in MY life. I learnt that it’s looking back and seeing why and how I got where I am now. It is having faith to be where I want to be no matter the situation. Lot of times I feel like giving up on everything. At times, I feel like the time and possibilities are on my side. I look back and see how God’s mercy is upon my life. How God’s favour is been covering me. It is hope that keeps me going.

 Now I know everyday when I wake up with faith and hope- that is a purposeful life for me!




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